“If the only thing people learned was not to be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world.” Sydney Banks
Every day is a gift to learn more about yourself, if you chose to take it.
Yesterday was a huge day for me. The culmination of hundreds of hours of work to produce something I am truly proud of, in my first online program. This program really is born of my own growth over the last 10 years. Over this time I have been through a divorce, re-married, had two more children, moved house with young children three times, continued to work, and 12 months ago started my own business.
And finally – at the age of 45 – I’ve finally learnt what I believe are the secrets to living a vibrant & contented life.
But you know what? No one is going to gift this to us. We have to be the ones to build that for ourselves, from the inside.
Today, I feel down, exhausted, and overcome with insecurity. I want to wrap myself up with my snugly 4 year old and sleep. And I have done a little bit of that today. But I have learnt not to fear feeling like this. It’s not really a sign of anything except that I am tired, and I probably need a break.
That’s the trust I have with my inner wisdom. I know that feeling like this is all a part of the joy that makes us human. I can sit and observe these feelings as they flow through me – like the flowing river in this photo – and I know there is nothing that I have to do with these feelings. I don’t have to fix myself, distract myself, or do anything for them to leave. If I do nothing, they will leave on their own.
What most of us fear is what other people think of us. It is the reason why the majority of us live a safe life on the side lines, not putting ourselves out there too much for fear of rejection or judgement.
I can tell you that I have danced with these fears many times over the last 6 months, but no more so than today. But here is what I also know and trust about the human experience. We have nothing to lose with what we do. What is the worst thing that could happen? No one would buy my program, people would disagree with it, or make negative judgements towards me and my beliefs. What would I lose if that did happen? Absolutely nothing. Because no one can take away the joy I have experienced in making this program, no one can take away how I have already helped many women live the life they deserve, no one can take away the love of my family, and most of all, no one can take away the self belief that is already cemented within me. I truly have nothing to lose.
We can never impress everyone. In a world of 7 billion people, billions may not love you. You may not even be able to impress the people who you love the most.
But you don’t need too.
“When I accept myself, I am freed from the burden of needing you to accept me.”
Place your trust in that inner wisdom that you have inside of you too. She will always be there to guide, protect & love you unconditionally.