“Do what you love without worrying what others think of you.”
If you want to build a business these days, you have to have a presence in the world of social media.
But, it’s definitely a tough place to hang out in some days. I’ve been judged, treated as though I’m a robot not a person, ignored, disagreed with, compared to others…. and whatever else might come my way on any given day. I’m sure you’ve felt many of these things too.
Some days I am powering along full of energy, passion and love to do what I do. What others think of me doesn’t bother me, I don’t compare myself to others, and I truly feel alive and unstoppable. Other days I feel like giving it all up, crawling in a hole and just going back to the comforts of what is all familiar and safe.
So what’s the difference between the ‘good’ days and the ‘bad’ days? Nothing… except my thinking. The bad days are usually days when my mood is low, and my thinking is strong and heavy. I notice it all, and take it all personally.
In the ‘good’ days it’s all still out there but I don’t hold on to it. My mood is high, my thinking is flowing, I’m not feeling stuck, and I’m not taking anything personally.
Has anyone ‘out there’ changed? No. It’s all come from my reality on that day. I mean, do we honestly think we can control what other’s think, say and feel about us?
Feeling scared, insecure, vulnerable, angry, sad, happy… are all a part of the human experience, and we don’t need to value one emotion over the other. They all tell us something about where our thinking is sitting. We don’t need to fear feeling them, as they are a part of who we are.
So even though I can see this as truth having lived and taught within this understanding for a while now, it doesn’t mean I feel happy and confident every day. I don’t. No one does.
But on days when I’m feeling like throwing it all in, or insecure because someone has disagreed with me, or my posts have received very little attention.. or whatever it is, I understand that it’s just my thinking that I’m feeling, and it will pass as naturally as the clouds will move away from the sun. It just can’t remain stuck there, because thought just doesn’t work that way. It’s just some days you notice your thinking more… some days you don’t. When we can trust we are truly safe no matter where our thinking is, we no longer have to fear the passing clouds.
Without understanding this, I could never have kept going with doing what it is I do. I’ve struggled with a lack of confidence and been riddled with insecurity for most of my life (and you know I don’t think I’ve ever told anyone that about me before) … until I slowly came to see that it was all coming from my thinking. There was nothing I had to do, or no where I had to go to ‘find’ security and confidence.
It was there within me all along.
Just like it is in there within you too.